Sometimes being held and holding is the most important thing. If you are in need of physical comfort, have difficulty finding this comfort in your everyday life, or if this feels like it could be transformative for you, then you are the client I am looking for. I am a Cuddlist, a professional cuddler. Yes, this is a real thing. If you are curious about my particular flavor of professional cuddling please visit cuddlist.com and read through their FAQ and code of conduct. If this looks like something you want to try, let me know and we will set it up. If you book a session please remember to ask for cuddling and not just an appointment. I want to make sure you get what you ask for. In my practice, the cuddling and the massage are like oil and water, they don’t mix. Massage is one-way-touch where the client is most often without clothes. Cuddling is two-way-touch where both of us are clothed. The pricing is different, the product is different, the calendars and contact are the same.If you have questions, we will have a conversation.
This service is non-sexual in nature. The bar I use for non-sexual is this, if there was and eight-year-old in the room with us, would you still be comfortable getting what you wanted out of the session? If the answer is no, then there are other services and other providers that might be a better fit.
Bellow is my profile from Cuddlist.com
My greatest joy and nourishment comes from connecting deeply. I was born for contact. I was an avid massager starting at the age of 3. My first business card for massage is from when I was 9 yeas old. For the last 16 years, my professional and personal life has been about physically touching people. I have been blessed with an appreciation, affection, and attraction for every body I have ever touched. This is my passion.
Transformation is a consistent endeavor in my life. I love the feeling of stretching and pushing my envelope*. I am searching for greater capacity to be fluent in all situations. Sometimes this looks like finding a way to not feel stress that I don’t want. Sometimes this looks like me leaning into the uncomfortable so that I can learn from it. Sometimes it is about resting and restoring before or after something big changes in who I am and how I relate to the world.
I want to fully meet, support, and empower my clients wherever they are on their path. All of you is welcome.
Session information from John
Please arrive on time or five minutes early having reviewed the code of conduct. Our session begins with a conversation about what you want and what we can do together to help you get it. Goals for our session might include but are not limited to; An oxytocin rush and warm, fuzzy, cozy, feelings. Grounding, relaxing, deeper and easier breathing, stable and centered feelings. A feeling of companionship with a co-conspirator on the path of peace and happiness. A safer more connected place to say things and feel feelings that have not felt fully expressed or witnessed. An exploration of your desire, how to express it, and how to follow it as it changes.
We will go through a consent exercise so that we can both relax into a familiarity with “yes” and “no” while staying in connection and positive regard. For some, touch can be overwhelming. I want to assure you that there are benefits and intimacy available even without touch. If we do have physical contact from holding hands to full body contact there are amazing rewards for the body and soul. These rewards are not as great as listening to, respecting, and following your inner wisdom about what feels good to you in any given moment. The goal is not to have as much contact as possible, it is to listen to what you really really want. I am excited to meet you there, whatever that looks like. Ten minutes before our booked time ends I will let you know so that closing the session feels graceful and fluid.
If you are coming to me in High Falls, NY we will be using a room built specifically for healing. If the weather is agreeable, there are 44 acres of land where we could walk, sit, hammock under the trees, or dangle our feet in a stream. There are dogs outside.
If you want a session in Manhattan, I have a room dedicated to touch on west 51st St. Because of overhead, sessions in Manhattan have an additional $20/hr room fee. I wave that extra cost for your first 3 sessions.
Massage is not included in my cuddle sessions but I bring the same attentive and grounded quality of touch. I don’t generally do out calls but if you are in a hospital, hospice, or similar situation it is worth having a conversation. You can visit my Facebook page at www.facebook.com/johncuddles
*”pushing my envelope” does not apply to the code of conduct. We can talk about anything and everything but the form and safety of the session is a prerequisite.
Cuddlist – Client Code of Conduct
Client and practitioner both verify that they are at least 18 years of age and thereby able to give consent.
This is a non-sexual service. Both clients and practitioners agree to not pursue or encourage sexual arousal.
Client and practitioner both agree to practice consent and attention to personal boundaries at all times.
Client and practitioner will communicate to find what is mutually comfortable throughout each session. This applies to all communication prior to and after sessions as well.
Client confidentiality is to be respected at all times.
Client and practitioner both agree to be free from any mind altering substances during the sessions and thereby fully present and ale to give consent.
Minimum clothing of tank top and shorts to mid thigh for both practitioner and client at all times.
No hand to genital contact or intentional genital stimulation of any kind.
No exchanging of saliva in any way.
Either party may end the session at any time.
Client agrees to fully disclose any diagnoses or conditions that may affect their session to the practitioner.
Client and practitioner both agree to respectful personal hygiene. Client will let Cuddlist.com know if any practitioners do not have acceptable personal hygiene.